26 votes, 45 comments. I’m like ok cool. and I can’t see how my responding would do serve to do anything other than hurt her even more. If this is your girlfriend I'd say no more often than every 4-6 hours. Posted by u/GloriousSteward - 7 votes and 6 comments So the girl I’m dating came over to my place, she Cooked food for me later we had a movie date, we ended up cuddling with each other and she left with a hug and a kiss on the cheek, I enjoyed the time I spent with her, should I text her that I miss her since I want to see her again or would that make me desperate and weak in her eyes and will boost her ego Depends entirely on your relationship with her, and how sick she is. Let it be and live your life, at least for a few days. (Heather & Jasmine should find a Japanese who looks like me if she wants to date that face. I do think you should stop texting her -- not to make her more interested in you (because it won't work), but to see if she ever texts you first. Last weekend we ended up in a bathtub together and a bit of touching happened. After a date, assuming it went well, i always tell her it was fun and to text me when she gets home safe. true A girl I was talking to texted me with a text that kinda made me mad and I haven't replied to her in 10 days should I still reply her or is it too long to reply her back. You will always know you were her last option after she exhausted all others. She (F21) broke up with me (M21) a month ago. 2 weeks is nothing, especially with what’s going on right now. I hit her up when I came back but she didn't respond for a week now. Anyway I text her back and go to bed. Its a better idea to let her get used to texting you first because then you know she's thinking about you when you're not around, she wouldn't remember to text you if she wasn't. Good luck When someone says “text me when you get home” you should probably text them when you get home to show you actually listen and are actually interested. Just the two of you guys. Ok so I (16/m) met this girl from mutual friends and we have hung out like four times so not gay often but we have a lot in common and I am starting… Block her. She didn't "forget". I wish I could know or ask her (maybe selfishly) how she is Basically I met this girl about a month ago through my friend one night when we all went out and after hooking up that night we started texted… Tell her that you're ignoring her because she's fat. I text her when I got home saying I shouldn’t have come over and I should have known better. We didn't text for like 2 days before we met (we didn't text that much btw)! After 2 days of meeting her I texted her let's meet again and she agreed then I told her about day and location then she didn't respond for 2 days and when she replayed today she said it will be raining in the weekend. Then she had corona and couldn't meet up, then I was on vacation and we couldn't meet up. During this period, we talked on phone twice for roughly an hour long each and had a good candid conversation. Skip to main content. You only want a relationship and she is letting you know there will never be one. Shows her you're a fun guy. Mistake 3: The Key to Not Overthinking Texts. A woman has her phone on her 24/7 she saw the message & chose not to reply. Tried a lot to talk to her but she started avoiding me. It doesn't matter if she doesn't like texting. girls tend to think guys who send texts after break up are clingy. That's a sexual harassment. I tell her she’s beautiful and then Whether it was him or her to brake up she still waited a large amount of time before she texted, which proves my point she is no longer interested move along. I get a message from her a few hours later and its this MASSIVE wall of text (Its was the original message she forgot to send me the first time r/ExNoContact. Kudos to her for finally being honest but you need to stick to your guns and cease contact. But it was especially true during the times leading up to the actual first dates with others. MrsMunted. This was up until around Sunday. Better you try than regret for the rest of your life. ) Don’t do it. It also depends on what the text is about. Nothing racy just a normal picture. You should definitely text her if you are interested too. /s. I’m just confused. r/dating_advice. If she doesn’t try to set up a date. You are nobodies second choice. Long story short, I got physical with my partner of 7 years after an argument (I have all sorts of mental health issues - not an excuse, but context) and she has moved out - her dad picked her up yesterday. I've known her from my college but we study different subject. Learn to not care if she doesn't text you back. Text her again but don’t let this determine your length of texts for any on going courtships. if you text, 95% chance you push her further away. On the night it happened, she texted me “hey girl”. 20 votes, 30 comments. Then if THAT goes well i suggest asking her on a real date. Do anything you can to resist the urge to check in on her or look to see what she’s up to (I am very guilty of this); it will only hurt you. That 5% of chance is for those girls who play games IMO, like breaking up to punish you, which also is questionable if You want this at all. We have mutual close friends and I even played volleyball with her and a couple more friends on Saturday. If it’s important to you to say that and to have closure, wait at least 3 months COMPLETE NC. She said sure and then she sent me a pic. The last 3-4 dates she has seemed distant over text but when we meet up super warm. Wishes me a good day, good sleep, and throughout the day asks me how my day is, how work is, etc. She informed me she’s hormonal and I haven’t heard from her much today and wondering if I should let her know I’m here if she needs it and am willing to give her space. Then during that if things are going well ask her if she would like to go grab a bite to eat after you guys are done. We go to the same gym, and I ran into her one day and we talked for at least 45 minutes, and when she was on her way out she came completely out of her way, back up to me and said bye and told me No bro. 135K Members. Love is a verb. Except that it's going to be hard because my face is rare in Asia. She is 21 years old and I am 24 years old. [deleted] •. Best to respect her need for space, you don’t want to come across as clingy either. My ex also had this apathetic behavior about him and I realize how much I devalued myself by continuing to entertain him. i would guess you have been ghosted but too many variables for it to be a reliable guess. You make the decision. I don't get this girl. Leave my text on delivered for 2 weeks idc youre probably busy you dont even open the app… leave it on read a few hours and you better not text me again cause my reply is just going to take thrice as long and will definitely be a word or two. Also, she has been reposting videos of missing her ex/first love (me). It made me feel scared but also confused. The last text I sent to her was asking her to meet up before I went travelling. We matched in a dating app! We didn't text for like 2 days before we met (we didn't text that much btw)! After 2 days of meeting her I texted her let's meet again and she agreed then I told her about day and location then she didn't respond for 2 days and when she responded today she said it will be raining in the weekend. Don't create artificial waiting times, sometimes you will take 12 hours, sometimes you'll take 5 minutes. If it’s not urgent, I’d let them take the time they need. " Then you have to hold up your end. We've been talking every day and have had great conversations and I feel we would be a good fit. If she does come back, she would need to be able to have a serious in depth conversation as to why she wants you. Granted I know she basically played me when I said don’t string me out. However, she updated her dating app profile Well We did talk a lot during the end of year holiday's through text which was fun we don't texted as much since she is more busy in recent times but hey talking in person is better anyway but to answer your question yes text her I believe she is open to conversation with you in person and through text. maybe 60% chance you are ghosted. If I were you, I'd block her on the remainder of my apps to keep her from sending me any more judgmental messages, and move on. She fell off the boat and that happens a lot. Send her a smiley face and keep it moving. Drop it and move on to the next. Women pray upon “nice guys” to give them false confidence in themselves. There was constant eye contact. Try to be nice, genuinely catch up, and ask them how they're doing. You only be disappointed because it’s not going to go as well as you think it will. Even with my current girlfriend of three years at times. I know it’s someone that knows me cause I usually go by nickname to acquaintances but they said my full name. Trust if she was really interested in you she would've reply back by now especially since you guys made plans already. Go to dating_advice. It takes them a while to respond because their lives are hectic. They have been dropping hints. Just text her back and stop playing games my dude. My text: It was good. One time though she said, she hopes I'm not annoyed by her incompetent texting style. If she hasn't messaged you back block her & move on. • 5 yr. Texting is a great way to keep intrigue and interest in a girl's mind beyond the time you're together. Look consider the possibility that you both love each other but might not be the ideal that you each seek ( unless you like convincing someone to want you the way you want them to want you). But there was spark in our eyes, well that's what I thought. Little known fact is that phones also have a calling option. Reply. But because of my fault (i kinda didn't show much interest after the date), we don't talk anymore. which that alone shows she is at least somewhat interested in you. If you catch any kind of hint that she wants you back just because the grass looked greener on the other side then turned out not to be, absolutely do not let her in your life. I didn’t use social media while I was away and I’ve only just noticed that she did text me back several days after our last conversation — she was nice but I didn’t really feel a connection with her and as it’s been over a month since we spoke, is it it I made her clear that I am willing to put more efforts to make this work. Posted by u/Party-Radish9572 - 2 votes and 13 comments Text her asking if she has any plans this weekend. Originally we were supposed to meet on Tuesday but she was called into work so we moved it up to Thursday. It becomes a game at that point, relationships aren't games. It’s hard but some relationships are worth it. I would not leave the door open for her to reach out later. Girl I’ve been talking to (we had sex once) then she strung me along for months occasionally ghosting me for a week long periods and texting only when she feels like it. posts about relationships longer than 6 months post go to r/relationship_advice or if you are married post to r/marriage. Our members listen, support, and encourage each other on their path to independence. You put the ball in her court and if she feels like hanging she’ll text you back. I'm a 22 year old man and I've been "talking" to (step prior to dating) an 18 Hey, I've had a great date two days ago and I really enjoyed it, after the date i wrote her that and she said the same, she also asked me to write to her when I come back to the city as she would love to meet me again (I went to my hometown the day after for 9days) and will be back after new year. If you’re chatting and you have to go do something else, tell her that. If she doesn't, it means she isn't interested. Bro, do what Jesus would do and wait three days. •. need DO NOT DOUBLE TEXT HER UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES. so obvi texting was heavier in the beginning, we would go a day without text, but we also had dates planned so we didn’t go longer than a day. I just want to know what she was thinking posting my man as her valentine. DO NOT FEED HER EGO. I just haven’t been able to stop thinking about her and i want to text her. • 18 days ago. 4. It’s a fact that she saw your message. Honestly if there were days of consistent texts then the length of one, doesn’t really matter to her. 4 days later I get a text from my ex (we talked October - january) that I haven’t spoke to since January this year. We had a plan to go to a concert for our second date, we even asked for the day off from our workplaces, but she flaked on me last minute and said she needed the money and that she took someone’s shift so she couldn’t make it to the concert, I said “it was cool, maybe some other time” and that was it, she liked the message but hasn’t texted me back in a week, was I supposed to say And am hoping she mentions her studying so I can learn more about her. Back off and see if she steps up. Text him. Sending the text will make her think you are not over her romantically. “The opposite of love is Me and this girl were talking and even went on a date. Take a deep breath and let the feeling pass brother. I’m a single dad. Avoiding bland texts like "hey", "how are you" and "whats up" will spare you both small talk. She said I should text her when I come back. But the weather was horrible and she told me that her period had came and that she was in a lot of pain. If occasionally she texts right when you have nothing else to do and you immediately think of a good answer you can text her back immediately, just don't be staring at your phone, waiting for her texts, all day. Then maybe ask her to do a one on one practice. Few days later she replied to one of my snaps and had continuous chat for Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. She's staying with her parents and hasn't yet decided on what to do. you two have been in no-contact for a pretty decent while too, if you're still thinking about each other then take the chance dude. If you don’t, don’t. Then make q decision. Context: We were dating since college (for an year) and were in a LDR for the past 6 months. Need some Advice! Hey all, so I (25M) had an amazing date with a girl I met on tinder, for more context I haven't been on a date for about 5 years and it was my first Tinder date, we had quite a fun time and I actually enjoyed it a lot, she told the same and asked me to write when I get back to the city (I've traveled to my hometown today for a week) and will be back in a city after a week, so we chatted a bit 21M, never asked a girl out in my life I joined a research internship and met a girl who I was really passionate about. Crypto Let’s be real, you’re using this as an excuse to talk to her. My ex's birthday is coming up soonish and I wonder if I should text her. " for example, i'd probably overthink about it. Posted by u/[Deleted Account] - 2 votes and 4 comments After first date, I said to her “text me when you get home so I know you got home safe” but she hasn’t texted me yet upvotes · comments r/dating_advice Focus on yourself for now. tinygitana. This was like last month, but I am starting regretting. I don't know what she thinks about it but so far she's been interested in me (asking questions, we have funny names for eachother already, she's just been really fun and sweet) and multiple times she's told me I'm really sweet and we compliment eachother Respond when u can otherwise the convo will go dry. Actually not contacting her is a win. You just want a valid reason to text her outside of your own personal feelings, which is fine, because I know I would do the same. If you have the time to text back and have a conversation, then go for it. anyway, in my opinion you definitely should text her back. You can say you’re looking forward to meeting her the day of or day before. When a girl never initiates, it usually means she's just not that into you. Nothing but casual. Don’t text her bsck. She texted me several times Friday and sent me a long message commenting on a video I linked her (prior) and then asking me a few questions. If it’s an urgent matter, I’d expect a response sooner than later and would follow up. Ask her what’s she’s up to. He'll even apologize if he takes too long to reply, tells me before hand if he'll take a bit to reply. We had been talking for around a week. If that suddenly stopped, or the tone changes to a "night. Mistake 5: Seeing the Bigger Picture: Strategic Texting for Better Connections. Neither. I still think about her often, and wish I could go back and do things differently. She always smiled at me… TL;DR I’ve gone on a few dates with a single mom. I will admit that everyday theres a bit of hope in me that a text from her will appear. A few weeks ago I had thought that maybe we should take a break and reconnect after the holidays and when she was done with some of her traveling, and I got through my depression. i will text her when i get home and again, reiterate that i had fun and would like to see her again. The 16 hour gap from her might be because she's busy and has obligations. . Consider the break a breakup and do whatever you need to do to grieve the relationship and move forward, this includes no communication. Contact her. ago. Business, Economics, and Finance. The world would not end if you didn’t text her. We also did a watch party virtually and saw back to back episodes of a funny sitcom which we both love the day before I sent her this text. It’s been 3 months and I’m still not over her. You don’t want to be a pest. Open menu Open navigation Go to Reddit Home Open navigation Go to Reddit Home OP, she made you unhappy when you were together romantically, and she will continue to make you unhappy as a friend if you continue to engage with her. Frankly, in your shoes, the only way I'd be willing to even open up a dialog is if OS publicly posted, on every social media platform she has, something that admits she has been having severe and serious mental health issues and has made wild, untrue, deeply offensive and dangerous accusations during episodes I made her clear that I am willing to put more efforts to make this work. We (18M and 16F) met online a few weeks ago. Don’t play games. But suddenly one day she texted we are no longer together. At the time I could not articulate why I felt the need to break up. Move on if she is still cold. It's time for you to reciprocate the effort. hard to say cuz we only met 2 weeks ago. Talked over face to face on couple of times. Mistake 4: Broadening Your Horizons: The Importance of Texting More Women. The last thing I can be bothered to do when I'm ill is have s text conversation. "When you start having a conversation with me, I promise I won't ignore it. If she's super sick, send a text but don't be surprised if you don't hear back. She has hooked up with another guy a few times now, so it would appear she wants him more than you. Ex No Contact is a breakup support group focused on self-reliance and general healing. In the end, i still care about her, even tho i know we're both different now. We exchanged some (not that much) texts during my vacation. I want to text her, she texted me first. Ask her how her summer is going. I never brought it up as the next time we saw each other it was incredible and I felt reassurance things were going well. Top 2% Rank by size. Should I text her back? So I met this very attractive woman a few weeks ago on a party and we have seen each other in company with mutual friends maybe 4-5 times. so, you deff. my question is should I keep on waiting and ignore her until she maybe decides to get back in contact with me or should I just text her cause I really don't want to loose (sic) her. Legit this and I’ve found guys are nervous to text after first date but when I text saying had a good time they reply after agreeing so just text him. The day will come and go and you can preserve your peace. Text once to establish an interaction but you'll come across as desperate if you keep texting without getting responses. But because the what if sucks just text her. The truth is that this is a Schrodinger's situation: Whatever you do (text or not), there is a slim chance only to turn this around (say, 5-10%). Your last message to her was short and didn’t lend itself to continued communication. If she's just a friend, once is enough I'd say. Have a conversation, stop texting her awkward jokes. Text her that and you basically blow any chance you have of getting back. 12 votes, 32 comments. I text her back a couple days later asking if I could see her next week. Award. Text again a few days later and if no response wait a few weeks. Two days later, I wished her a happy new year, and after a 2-day delay (I was hurting in those 2 days but told myself she needed space and that we literally just met ), she responded with a nice Either she's just busy and can't message you at the moment or she's simply uninterested. However, today she replied back (after almost a month) saying she is usually better at keeping in touch. I’ve already hurt her enough, and it feels like anything I say will just cut even deeper. She tells me to have a good day and work and to be safe and have fun. Once they text back, it’s always a thoughtful message. but this time try to get into couples therapy with her or something similar where you explicitly learn 2. It's been no contact for a week. I'd let her be; if she is simply busy, she'll contact you. Let her text first. The reason for this post is she keeps texting me saying “I miss you”, “I’m sorry” etc. Should I text her back or just move on. 99% of the time she'll text you when she gets home. That gives you the chance to talk to her in a none practice setting. Keep it brief, light, playful, and goal oriented. She responded to my text 3 days later. I would not text her back and if gifts arrive, simply return them to sender. TOPICS. She's nothing special, bro. I would text her if I were you - if nothing else for my own sanity. Do not text her. I’d probably google interesting things to text about with a girl. Don’t overthink the texting game. Don't message her again. You deserve better than apathy. There's a high chance they're thinking the same things you're thinking too. You're busy, she's busy, and this shit isn't that important anyway. Ex No Contact. It was rough - we were in love, together for 10 months, and I broke her heart. That happened on Sunday. Just reach out and ask nicely how she's doing. supernova1046. 2. I’d give her space and not contact her until she reaches out. If you want to talk to her, talk to her. It's kinda apparent that the other person is into you too. She mentioned that she met up with her ex to return stuff a couple days prior to our date and found out he was marrying a girl he had only gone out for a month with. Send her an article about something she’s interested in, or a funny Tik Tok video or ask her for a Netflix recommendation…just keep the conversation going and let things unfold. • 3 yr. 5. You have nothing to lose. She texted in the morning and said she was sorry and it was selfish of her. 226 Online. This prompted her to write a really long text back to me. “Happy birthday” is a romantic gesture. this sub is for advice about specific dating situations not general debates. At like 3:30 am that said “hey how r u” - he never used to text like that by the way. Eventually it wont hurt. That's cool. Additionally, it will stop you from using having conversations with this person as a crutch for boredom or low self-esteem. Eventually I went back home in October to solve things. Went on our 7th date a couple days ago. i defo would had i the chance and all of the hints. Her day would not be ruined. AccountSuspicious159. When someone is interested in another person they get excited because they text and they text back right away. GameStop Moderna Pfizer Johnson & Johnson AstraZeneca Walgreens Best Buy Novavax SpaceX Tesla. Draw a smiley face on your testicles and text it to her at 2 am. She came back that same day for the cat and some other things, and her dad said they would be back today for the rest of her things - but After that, everything just came back to me. I acted like nothing would affect me but started missing her in few days. No do not text her, do not get her to draw it out for you. Plus, it will at least allow her to see that there is more to you and your feelings than just sex/physical intimacy - She will at least have a chance to see that you do care enough to reach out. We did this several times now where it's back/forth of really long text messages with about a 12-24 hour delay in response time. But after much reflection, I sort of understand why now. If she’s feeling overwhelmed by things in her life right now it may also feel overwhelming for her to continue to reply to msgs. I need some help with this situation and have no one to talk to, I've never felt so torn on what to do and never really asked for help before, But me M (20) and my ex W (18) where dating long distance for around 8 months, I visited every so often and it worked for a little, but there where ups and down first fix your mindset, you seem obsessed with this girl, you hardly know her, she hardly knows you, other guys might be messaging her, you should be messaging other girls, lots out there, you don’t know if things will work out with girl good chance they wont if she ignored the 3rd date ask, so you shouldn’t expect it to and you shouldn’t care so much Related Dating advice Dating Relationships Family and Relationships forward back r/datingadviceformen A subreddit for guys to exchange advice, success stories, get over rejection, or just play with ideas for attracting and interacting with women on both a physical and emotional level. No. I messaged her suggesting we meet up if she had the time, but I didn't get a reply—possibly because I was overwhelming her with various suggestions. Not sending it would make you look like you got over her, which is more mature. I've been in contact with this girl (22) lately. The waiting to text back is to match their response time doesn't help. Text when you have something to say. 1. Reply reply. I met this girl for a coffee. However, after some texting she ghosted me, and I thought that was that. It's hard but worth it. If not then move forward and assume she’s onto other things. I text her on Saturday asking her how her weekend has been going before I head off to work. She already knows your around, she gave you her tinder number and she knows who's on it bro. He told me not to respond because she could say he sent me after her… and she could say he did something to her. Then fuck her right in the pussy. Move on. Takes a bit, but this is vital. I met this girl at a friend's party, and we exchanged numbers. s. If she says she didn't feel a spark from you, I wouldn't bother her further. It will be okay. The reason she broke up was because I'm leaving the country Her and I have kept in touch a little bit, through commenting on posts, replies to stories, but we haven’t actually texted each other in awhile. Later the same night we held hands while falling asleep on the couch. Examples of Clingy Texts to Avoid at All Costs. I've already told her I hope she feels better but I had no clue what to even text her after. Would I be wrong if i texted her? P. She apologized for the delayed text. Should I text her? I know some people just naturally drift apart, but (21F) went from saying we should spend more time together once we get back from the holidays, that she should come visit me at work and just overall heading in the direction of a proper exclusive relationship to just ghosting me. Either way, there's not much you can do. If you keep texting her she’ll think you are a needy dude. Mistake 2: The Pitfalls of Over-Texting: Finding the Right Balance. Or check it out in the app stores When should I text her back? Sex and dating Hi all! 22 year old Again, for the slow ones in the back (and in front, theres a lot of yall): Read is NOT DELIVERED. When I had enough and unfollowed/ removed them as a follower from everywhere, ignored their texts, didn’t accept any of their new follow requests she starts texting me Oh I see. Tip: Stop over texting, over pursuing, over thinking : r/dating_advice. Answer to that question is always no. This is the ultimate friend zone. So I text her the next day just to see how her day was going. ud vn es eh qb vs nb un xr di